Sometimes writing a daily blog post to attain a personal goal proves less than riveting. It seems that patiently living life itself, visiting with friends, and taking in the world around me inspires the best fodder.
Uncertainty. Even the word itself elicits fear, anxiety, anger, frustration and a slew of other unpleasant feelings. When faced with an ambiguous future, we all have different reactions. Some of us run to escape the dilemma, make a knee-jerk reaction, melt down entirely, drown it out with external noise, work feverishly at finding a solution, or just sit stuck, hoping that an answer will reveal itself. Sometimes there isn’t an answer. Sometimes the situation is entirely out of our control, and that is enough to drive a person to insanity. It happens.
Perhaps your dilemma involves work, and unfulfillment at your job, struggle to find employment to make ends meet, or a company going downhill causes your career and future to be at stake. Maybe the health of yourself or a loved one has caused utter calamity, and the root of the mystery illness can’t be found, or worse, it has been confirmed, and you are flailing at the thought of dealing with daily worry about the how, what, and when surrounding the eventual demise. Maybe you have always wanted to be a mom, and news that you can’t have children has wounded you to the core, or maybe your parts are working, but your chances of meeting the right person seem increasingly bleak, or perhaps you recently discovered you were pregnant and you are nowhere near ready to tackle what’s to come. You might be a student about to graduate, yet you have no idea which direction to go, what city to live in, and the numerous combinations and permutations are daunting. Or, possibly, the unknown lies deep within your relationship, and you feel that it has reached a hurdle so high, that you are terrified it’s insurmountable.
These situations are all beyond frightening. How do we wake up each day, fasten our smiles on our faces, and continue? Obviously, we don’t have the luxury of pressing the pause button, rewinding, and reevaluating. In theory, that would be fabulous, but that didn’t work out so well for Adam Sandler in Click, anyway. Sitting and worrying about it will just give us an ulcer, migraine, or some additional problem to exacerbate the situation. Yelling at everyone alienates the chosen few who love you, and again initiates a snowball effect. So, what is one to do?
Each of us has different coping mechanisms. I’ve taken the time to do a little research, and stumbled upon some great ideas worth trying. From embracing the chaos to distracting ourselves in healthy ways, these cover the gamut. This article from Real Simple has a few very practical suggestions to handle the initial panic. This helpful blog outlines all angles and suggests various directions, for those who are too caught up in the midst to think straight. Lastly, here are 10 great ways to embrace the uncertainty from a positive standpoint.
I’ll leave you with a quote that struck me yesterday. I was out running materials out to one of my printers, and saw this above his workstation. It turns out that he inspired his team with this saying in the midst of a seemingly impossible project. Granted, it applies more to solution-based problems rather than those out of our control, but I found it quite fitting to share with my blog audience:
Perhaps clarity comes from working within our limitations to create a new perspective…